Messy Mademoiselle

Ladies, here’s what you do when he needs to go on a trip without you, for whatever reason, for work or to see to some business about a deceased distant relative, etc. You can’t go or really you don’t want to go, I mean it would be inconvenient for you first of all. And who can afford to take a day off from work unless it’s for something precious like a real holiday? But most importantly, you are exceptional at your job and the place might fall apart without you. So, you’re not going. 

You are secure as you are in your relationship so you have no worries about what he will be up to but actually you are more concerned that he’ll be bored without you. So you opt to give him an assignment. 

As you’re embracing and saying goodbye you ask him in his ear, “Will you bring me something from where you’re going?”

He suddenly gets a bright idea.

“I want to bring you a gift. Of course I will find something that reminds me of you and bring it to you.” What choice did he have in responding otherwise?

His mind starts going and he is already imagining what he could possibly find and planning the practicality of finding the time to go shopping and calculating how much extra space he has in his suitcase. On top of everything he is already setting out to do, he is probably a little irritated that we have just added one more thing to that list.

(And this task, he worries, may have consequences if not executed properly.)

So he leaves for a period of time and you can bet he is holding your request in the back of his mind. Now you aren’t the only one who can’t rest easily during this distance. 

Upon his return, he gives it to you… the gift. You react excitedly. You thank him. You tell him you love it, no matter what. He is a hero and you had your fun. The distance made you remember to appreciate your time on your own and also to be grateful you get to share your time with the right person.

But really it was not some game. You actually love receiving gifts from him. You love the idea that he had to take the feelings he has for you and conjure up something tangible from them.

You love that he carried those tangible feelings all the way back to where he started, right back to you.

The only way this could go wrong is if he literally forgets. In that case, you’re better off taking that solo holiday you’ve always dreamt of and never coming back. The Greek islands are always an option…